Becoming a father
Jan 16, 09:11 PM by Stefan
When my wife and I announced to the world that we were expecting a baby, of course everybody responded very positive. However, a lot of people also responded with a question: “How old are you guys now?” It seems in this world of carreer first, a lot of people at first have a hard time understanding the decision to be relatively young parents. And this is relative, when our son Tomas was born last year, my wife was 25 and I was nearing the 27 mark. Definitely much older than the average age people tried to get kids, say, 25 years ago.
In those months of pregnancy, it can be quite hard for the father-to-be. Obviously, the mother can have quite a hard time, but I think what this does to the father is overseen often. I mean, for those 7 months or so that you know there’s a kid coming, as a father it’s still hard to grasp this idea, to realize this. Through all inconveniences, the mother at least feels the child growing, feels it’s presence. The father is unable to experience this, can only see the ultrasound and at a later stage feel the baby kicking.
This makes the “shock” even bigger when the baby is actually there. Even though you’re prepared for a special experience, it’s not even remotely as special as you prepare yourself for. Seeing your own son for the first time for real is beautiful. An amazing experience. And if that can be considered amazing, the experience that follows, of holding your kid, having to take care of it, it’s all great. For some reason, even if you have a lack of sleep at night because of your son waking up, it is compensated by the energy you get from even something as simple as watching him. Watch him sleep, watch him being held by his mother. I must add here, though, that we were lucky enough to have a baby that only woke up somewhere between one and four times a night, and didn’t cry whole nights.
One last thing I need to note, and definitely of importance, is the enormous boost in respect of your wife/girlfriend that you’ll get from experiencing the birth. From the start of the contractions, a friday night, Charmed had just begun so it was about 8:30 PM, I could tell that it was quite hard. Not being able to even walk from the bed to the shower later on without a contraction showed me that it was not just hard, it was getting real hard. Things were happening very fast, and we were told that fast births were also the hardest. Just looking at my wife definitely confirmed this. My wife told me that, if this would be a long birth and it was this hard all the time, she wouldn’t be able to make it. We rushed to the hospital, driving 130 km/h where only 70 is allowed. And that was our luck. Afterwards we were being told that the ‘push contractions’ must’ve started while in the car already. My wife was hardly properly “installed” in her hospital bed, when during a contraction the nurse on duty was watching my wife with surprise, not expecting her to be having ‘push contractions’. She quickly called the assistant on duty, and she quickly came to the conclusion that my wife was definitely ready to start pushing. 15 minutes later, our son Tomas was born. Seeing my wife experience this, seeing her go through all this, definitely gave me even more respect for her, made me love her even more. It maybe sounds cliché, but if you ever experience this, then you’ll know it’s true.
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hi…this is a bit weird and u guys will think it 2 but i’m 17 and want a kid, i’v always loved kids, everytime a new baby was born in the family i would hug him/her for hours, feed them, change them the lot…..my gf is very broody and wants me 2 give her one i, i would love 2 give her one but i need advise from older more experince men, u probs think i’m a stupid kid but i’m one of those guys u want 2 settle down young, plz send me an email, crazypete2005@hotmail.com
chees for reading and well done for your kids, all of u :D